Yes, believe it or not there is something worse! Just a couple of people showing up! You plan a party which everyone wanted and promised to come. You were expecting 30 or so people and only 5 show up.
To be honest with you, I would rather no one showed up. At least that would not be as embarrassing. I have been on the end of giving a party and a few people show up. I was also at a party that just a couple of people showed up. I was also the receiver of a party, which I did not want and just a few people showed up.
Those are the kind of parties that are absolutely no fun for anyone. It kind of undermines your self-esteem and you also feel bad for the host.
How to avoid these kinds of parties is to be sure of who your guests are. Of course if you are not the host there is not a lot you can do, other than try to have a super special time. Maybe this can be a turning point to a real great friendship. I guess it is about making the best of times out of what could be described as a disaster.
If you are the host of such a party, you will now know who your ‘count on friends’ are. Some people that have previously promised to come may have a true emergency and for that they can be excused. They would also have the manners to notify you.
Secondly, if you are giving a party for someone, be sure they really want a party or if it is a surprise, be sure they have really true friends that can be counted on.
So how do you avoid the disaster party of the decade? Start by seeking out a few friends with whom you have a common interest and invite them over for a simple dinner. You will then get to know them on a personal level and also see how punctual they can be. Punctual is high on my list, but it may not be on yours.
There was an occasion we were invited to a friend’s house for dinner at 6. We got there about 5 minutes after 6, due to the traffic. She wasn’t even there! We were a little irritated when she finally showed up about 6:25. We were going to leave at 6:30 if she had not showed up. We had prepared ourselves to be able to have a decent appetite when what we thought would be time to eat. We did not eat until 9:00. That was extremely rude and she had absolutely no excuse for the lack of respect. Needless to say our friendship slipped away shortly after that.
Your time is valuable, but so is your guest’s time. Do you ever notice how kids are eager to be on time when they are going to a friend’s birthday party? You have to hold them back…it is at 3…no you can’t get there at 2! Set a time for your party to start and be ready for your guests at that time. Your party starts at 2 and the first guest arrives at 2:05 and you are still running around in curlers and bedroom slippers! Okay, so you get my point.
I would rather have a few guests over for a nice dinner and maybe a few board games or just having a nice conversation, to build a bonding friendship. Once you have a number of close friendships, then get all your friends together for a bigger party.